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“I knew everything would be alright.”
- — Celeste
Two years ago I found out that I was pregnant and it was a really tough time for me. I had just realized what I finally wanted to do with my life and what was really important to me. I came from a state where the laws on adoption are not very friendly toward the birth-mother. Your child's record is sealed when the adoption is complete and that leaves the chance to be reunited with your child someday completely in the hands of the adoptive parents. The laws also don’t support any openness of your adoption, and that’s not what I wanted. I felt so trapped, as a mother of three children already and having been accepted into a wonderful college in Colorado, I did not know what to do. My adoption journey began with an adoption agency in California. This was not a pleasant experience, primarily because they were not knowledgeable about the laws in my state. The further along in my pregnancy that I got, the more worried I got. The worst part was that the people at the agency did not share this worry with me. Then I found Adoption Team Hawaii in the phone book and called. I spoke personally with them and they made me feel at ease. We discussed a couple of families that were waiting to adopt and their portfolios were mailed to me. As I began looking through the files, I realized this was going to be very hard for me. How was I going to be able to decide who would be my daughter's mother? Jan and Phil were new clients of Adoption Team Hawaii, but when I read about Jan, and saw her photo, I knew she was meant to be my daughter's mom. I could never have been more right. We had a scare because my OB thought the baby would come sooner than expected. It was fine, though, and Jan came immediately. I chose to be stand-offish when I met her, because I thought that would help me to stay committed to following through with my adoption plan. It didn’t work, though, because I have never met a more beautiful, amazing woman than my baby’s adoptive mother, Jan. Jan and I were together every step of the way through my labor and delivery … she wouldn’t even leave me to get something to eat. When my daughter Rachael was born I asked the nurse to put her in Jan’s arms. When I saw the look of love in Jan’s eyes and the joy in her face, I knew everything was going to be okay. My father passed away the same day my (and Jan's) daughter was born and it was very sad and difficult. I believe, though, that God gives and he takes away, and that is why I notice Jan and Rachael in my thoughts when I get lonesome for my father. If you happen to read this Jan, thank you. Always know that you and baby Rachael will always be close to my heart.......Love Celeste.
“Everything turned out good and I'm really grateful.”
My husband and I were separated at the time. My son and I went to visit my family in Okalahoma. While I was there I was raped. When I returned to Arizona I found out I was pregnant. All I kept thinking was that I couldn't raise another baby … there was just no way. I don't believe in abortion, so I started considering adoption. I didn’t know where to begin, but I looked in the newspaper that day and found a phone number to an adoption law practice. I talked it over with my husband and we both decided that adoption would be the best way to go for everyone in the situation. I called Adoption Team Hawaii and talked with Kelli. She explained to me all of my options. She also suggested that I give it a couple of days to really think it over, and so I did. When I called her back and told her that I was sure adoption was what I wanted for this pregnancy, she began telling me about different couples that I could choose from. When I made my decision and told her which couple I had chosen, she then told me, in greater detail, how the process would work and also a lot more information about the family that was going to adopt and raise my baby. I was excited about the couple and that I could travel to Hawaii. Everything turned out really good and I’m very grateful to Kelli and the family that adopted my baby. Deanna, birth mother
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